Divorce touches everything we care about; our children, our homes, our financial security. Because of this, it is normal for emotions to run high when working through the divorce process. At times such as these, it is critical to both respect our own needs, and to treat others involved with respect. These ideas are at the core of the Divorce with Respect concept.
When emotions seem out of control it can be challenging to understand new and complex concepts that may be involved in the situation. This is one reason it is important to rely on experienced professionals to guide you through the process. Many people find it helpful to consult with a financial professional, a mental health professional and others, in addition to an attorney.
If you choose professionals who are specially trained in non-litigation methods of conflict resolution, they can help you to understand and practice actions aimed at intentionally diffusing tension and anxiety and keeping the focus on reaching a reasonable settlement. Some things you and your spouse can do to help:
- Avoid assuming the worst about the other party, and consider his/her needs and interests
- Avoid speaking out of anger, and refrain from speaking negatively about the other person in public, on social media and in front of your children.
- Stay focused on your goals and your priorities for the process, and know what your goals are when entering negotiations.
- Focus on seeking terms that allow for the most fair and reasonable outcome to your divorce. This does not necessarily mean a 50-50 split on everything.
- Find things to be thankful for and that you can look forward to while practicing empathy toward the other party.
These steps can help you achieve an outcome that is reasonable and sustainable long- term. With the right help, and the right motivations and goals, Divorce with Respect is possible.